Over 10 years ago while working in an office 5 days a week...
bringing up a young family...
believing I was responsible for solving everyone’s problems around me...
annoyed at anyone who looked at me the wrong way...
Frustrated when I wasn’t getting everything right...
angry when I was repeatedly overlooked for promotion when I knew I could do the job standing on my head...
worried when paying my bills and there was more month than money...
furious inside as my world made less and less sense to me.
One day I woke up blind. Literally.
I thought my eyes were just stuck together.
I was blinder than a bat in a dark cave.
I actually thought ‘Wow, this is going to be interesting’.
A few moments later my sight came back - phew!
This should have set alarms off
I carried on in the same way I had before.
Trying to solve everyone’s problems.
Then it happened.
I was talking to someone at work when I suddenly blacked out, out like a light.
The person I was speaking to later said my eyes rolled up inside my head...
I turned yellow like Homer Simpson and I crumpled to the floor.
Medical attention was swift.
I woke up in hospital with my family around me
The doctor told me my body had taken drastic action after it had spent years warning me I was pushing myself too hard,
way past exhaustion.
My body had had enough and simply shut me down.
After a few days in hospital I was given the all clear and sent home with orders to completely rest...
and a suitcase sized collection of medication.
Then depression set in
I was lost.
Didn’t want to move.
Didn’t want to go anywhere.
I could see my long suffering family were doing everything they could to support me but there was something stopping me from responding.
All I could think was, if I had been doing the wrong thing all this time, what was the right thing?
I was sent to a psychologist
Over the next few weeks they chatted with me for an hour (timed to the second)
asking about my childhood...
why I thought I was depressed...
I was about to start CBT training when something in my head told me this training was not the answer...
exploring my childhood and history was not the answer...
and I certainly didn’t have an answer as to why I was depressed...
I knew there must be something far simpler
I just couldn’t put my finger on it.
It took a few years of stumbling through so many baffling coaching steps...
fumbling through so many bewildering coaching systems...
and bumbling through so many bemusing coaching strategies...
And I finally found the answer
I had found a coach who I could relate to, talk to and finally understand!
I was listening to them one day when they said something that was a complete throwaway comment, something you hear every day (I can't remember what it was and my coach won't tell me what it was to this day) and all I remember were fireworks and light bulbs going off in my head and my brain saying:
'What people say or think about you has nothing to do with you.'
'Your behaviour is not you.'
And my coach said "Right there... you're starting to see it."
It is something sooo simple
Receiving a solid grounding in psychology that included transformational change and 3 Principles, I completed a rigorous certification programme in 2020 studying under the global award winning David Key.
I'm now sought after across the UK helping people from all walks of life and business discover where they want to be and how to get there without stress, steps or strategies.
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